NHS Squeeze: Will It Mean More Work And Fewer Resources For Carers?

I came across the following in Ancient Wisdom, Modern World: Ethics for a New Millennium, by the 14th Dalai Lama. It is an interesting description of the ethics of caring for ourselves and others and the authenticity of happiness that is grounded in qualities such as love, compassion, patience and tolerance.

Consider the following. We humans are social beings. We come into the world as the result of others' actions. We survive here in dependence on others. Whether we like it or not, there is hardly a moment of our lives when we do not benefit from others' activities. For this reason it is hardly surprising that most of our happiness arises in the context of our relationships with others.

 

Nor is it so remarkable that our greatest joy should come when we are motivated by concern for others. But that is not all. We find that not only do altruistic actions bring about happiness but they also lessen our experience of suffering. Here I am not suggesting that the individual whose actions are motivated by the wish to bring others' happiness necessarily meets with less misfortune than the one who does not. Sickness, old age, mishaps of one sort or another are the same for us all. But the sufferings which undermine our internal peace -- anxiety, doubt, disappointment -- these things are definitely less. In our concern for others, we worry less about ourselves. When we worry less about ourselves an experience of our own suffering is less intense.

 

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Enhanced Disclosure Arrived Without A Fanfare

I have whinged at length about the muda involved in applying for an enhanced disclosure from the Criminal Records Bureau. Well, today, I finally received my enhanced disclosure, having started the process in November and finally put the paperwork in in January. After such a palaver, I can't believe that it arrived so quietly in the post, without the merest screed or iota of a fanfare.

I can not believe that these checks have any substantive value when more than 9.5 million adults are currently required to get them in the UK. I can only be confirmed in this opinion by this week's report about those appalling instances of elder abuse that are perpetrated by paid carers from local authorities or those working in care homes.

I am pleased that I have jumped this administrative hurdle. I am pleased if it makes anybody feel safer in my presence although to date, nobody has asked for more than the standard disclosure that I already have. I'm appalled at the cumulative waste of time (mine, the designated people who checked the application, those who ran the check), money and resources.

Copyright 2006, Tony Plant Happystance Project

If No Man Is An Island, Is Compassion The Connection?

There is another extraordinary piece by Keith Carlson about the contrasts and ironies experienced by those who care for others. This piece is an antidote and contrast to the report about abuse by carers that is (rightly) dominating the news cycles at present, and the grisly stories featuring prominently on blogs like NHS Blog Doc's.

Keith Carlson gives us very moving insight into the currents of his working life and his vocation. He looks in on a patient and receives his good wishes for the weekend.

Our handshake was a lingering one, and then I took my leave, walked out into the light rain, and looked back at the windows of the institution temporarily housing this gentle and kind soul. He may be locked inside and I may be free to roam, but his spirit is as free as mine, and part of him left with me, and I carry it with me still. It lives in my heart, and no physical boundary can dissolve the strings of compassion which connect us all.

Amidst all the recent publicity, it is refreshing and necessary to read an account like this. And to know that there are people who are guided by their compassion and a keen sense of human dignity. It is all the more necessary when there are incidents that make us question whether some people recognise human dignity in the vulnerable. We frequently quote John Donne's Meditation XVII:

No man is an island, entire of itself...any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind; and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee

I have the privilege to run Happystance workshops with carers: the more that I meet them, and the more I come across the writings of people like Keith Carlson, the more I question whether the connection between us all is grounded in compassion. Which is back to thinking about the Dalai Lama's writing on the link between compassion and authentic happiness.

[E]thics are necessary as a means to ensure that we do not harm others...genuine happiness consists in those spiritual qualities of love, compassion, patience, tolerance and forgiveness and so on. For it is these which provide both for our happiness and others' happiness.

Ethics, Happiness and Caring